I'm so tired of this. And I've had it so ingrained in me over a lifetime that I'm the one who is unreasonable (even when I'm not) that second-guessing myself is taking a lot out of me. Combine that with the authority society tends to vest in doctors and this is even less fun.
I also regret not having asserted myself from the start. I thought if I was polite (meek) and quiet and tried not to be a "problem" or "bother" anyone that everything would be fine. Clearly, that isn't necessarily the case.
I hope these sorts of posts will at least help other people who are in situations similar to mine or help them avoid these sorts of situations all together.